Posts tagged sex drive

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Ok so I love Heather B. Armstrong’s blog DOOCE and she wrote this great post about antidepressants and their effects on her sex drive. She writes that she’s tried various meds and is now on Cymbalta and hoping it will give her her sex drive back, as her doctor says it “might not reduce your sex drive.” 

Bad news, Heather. I’m on both Cymbalta and Wellbutrin and it has eradicated my sex drive…but in a different way. I have no interest in having sex for the most part, but expecially have no appetite for sex with people I should be having sex with (read: my husband). 

I don’t reeeeally blame Cymbalta for the person-specific libido killing.  I blame my husband for not being interested in me sexually. I believe that as a defense mechanism, I just stopped being attracted to him even when a peek of sex-drive sunlight came through the Cymbalta clouds.  For several years I would get so hurt and upset because he wouldn’t raise an eyebrow in my direction. I’d beg him to go to therapy alone or with me, to exercise alone or with  me.

His self-esteem issues and low libido have killed our sex life and as a result, I am totally f**ed in the head. So now all someone has to do is show interest and actively pursue me for to return a little enthusiasm. I could never tell this stuff to my psychiatrist so instead you get to read it. Thanks for doing so - it’s somehow validating.